Trauma Messaging
With trauma, we lose our hearts. We believe the lies that we’re told inside the trauma. We lose the ability to see good in ourselves and the world around us.
There were so many things I believed about myself to be true, when in reality, it was trauma messaging lying to me. I deserved all the bad that happened to me. I was dirty, gross. I was bad, naughty. I was a horrible person that couldn’t get anything right. My attempts at ‘being better’ were never good enough. I wasn’t good enough. It had to be my fiber. It had to be my fault. Otherwise, the world didn’t make any sense. Random violence doesn’t make sense. People we’re told we can trust causing us pain doesn’t make sense. Family and friends not believing us doesn’t make sense. Places we are supposed to be safe becoming our war zones doesn’t make sense. The world is supposed to be an inherently good and safe place, so when random bad things happen, it doesn’t make sense. If it’s me, though, if I caused it… that makes sense. Trauma messaging makes us believe we’re the problem, not what’s happening around us or to us.
Every time we talk about it and don’t feel heard or believed, it compounds the belief that those trauma messages are truth. The other side of that coin includes trauma survivors and people who suffer with mental health problems sometimes having a difficult time expressing thoughts and feelings. Not being able to make others understand also compounds the belief that it’s us, and that we are the problem.
My adult life spiraled out of control because I believed those trauma messages. I didn’t see any other way, any other life, any other place, or any other worth. I was following the trauma messaging from childhood. They were my beacon, my guide. It’s what I knew. You don’t know what you don’t know until you learn a better way. Hence, the importance of seeking help to combat those messages and healing trauma. There is a better way. Those trauma messages are lies.
-JJ
“There is a better way.
Those trauma messages
are lies.”
-JJ